After loss, Mother’s Day takes on a new meaning. On Saturday, May 13th, there will be workshop at the Grief Resource Center to gain insight, comfort and tools to help deal with grief on Mother’s Day. We will learn from one another how to honor and remember our beloveds. The day will include a guest speaker, small group sharing, a grief exercise, and a gift to take with you from the Grief Resource Center. Facing the hardest parts of grief is the only way through. You may not believe it now, but you will find your pathway to healing.
The history of Mother’s Day has heartfelt and meaningful roots. Anna Jarvis began the day in 1908 to honor her own mother. She went on to give birth to twelve children, but only four survived. This day has changed over the years and includes all types of loss.
Mother’s Day can be a challenge that defies the endurance of mothers and grandmothers whose children or grandchildren have died at any age. It doesn’t matter how long ago the death occurred, or the manner of death, the emotional turmoil that results when everyone else is buying cards and flower baskets to honor moms, is wrenching. The loss of a child changes mothers and grandmothers in irrevocable ways.
Also included are women who have experienced miscarriages or stillbirths. This day can bring the painful reality of loss, rather than celebration.
For women who have been unable to have children, this day can often bring up feelings of isolation, unworthiness, pain, and sadness. The loss of a new life before that babe had a chance to live must be grieved.
Also included are men, women and children whose mothers have died at any age. The loss of one’s mother is the end of new memories with her. No one can take her place. She is irreplaceable, no matter if she was your mother by birth, by adoption, or by circumstances. Whether you were on the best of term or if you were experiencing challenges, a mother’s death shakes up the family structure.