Miquela Rivera, Ph.D.

“Sometimes the smallest things, take up the most room in our heart.”

~A.A. Milne, author – Winnie-the-Pooh

Losing a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or early in the child’s life after they are born is no small thing.  An unborn child or an infant carries the hopes and dreams of the parents and family – a life-changing event filled with excitement and anticipation.  When that new life dies, the hopes and dreams are cut short.  Many consider a baby to be the expression of love between the new parents, the sign of a growing family with loving expectations and the hope for the future.  Expectant parents may fear the loss of their unborn child (especially if they have lost a baby before), but they don’t typically plan for the actual loss and such emotional devastation. They may blame themselves for the loss of their child, even though they had no control over it.  When hope is suddenly taken pain, unanswered questions and a sense of unfairness remain.  Therein lies the need for people to be comforted and find meaning in the depth of their sorrow.